Archive for the ‘Goals’ category

How should I spend my time during my job search? (Video by Career Expert, Pete Leibman)

November 8, 2011

Not sure how to spend your time during your job search?

If so, this 2-minute video will help you be more productive on a daily and weekly basis:

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-Pete Leibman

-Author of “I Got My Dream Job And So Can You! 7 Steps To Creating Your Ideal Career After College” (due out through AMACOM in early 2012)

-Founder of Dream Job Academy

-Keynote Speaker for The Dream Job College Tour

-Creator of The Washington Wizards’ Sports Careers Day

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Do you know why doubters can HELP you achieve your dreams? (written by Career Expert, Pete Leibman)

July 15, 2011

Whenever you try to do something big or something for the first time, people will doubt you.  Do not be surprised when this happens.  This is the byproduct of most people aiming way too small with how they live their lives.  More specifically, there are 5 main reasons why people will doubt you can achieve your dreams:

  • They think they are helping you.  This happens often with our family and closest friends.  As a student, one of my family members told me I should be “more realistic” when it came to my first job out of college.  Even though this bothered me, I knew her heart was in the right place.  She thought she was doing me a favor by not letting me get my hopes up only to be disappointed (since she thought I would fail).
  • They don’t believe they could succeed. Another reason people will doubt you is because they don’t believe they could do what you are trying to achieve, either because they tried and gave up, or because they have never tried.  Several years ago, I went to lunch with a group of professional speakers who were much older than me.  During our meal, I shared my dream of publishing a book.  Immediately, the entire group shared their stories of being unable to get a publisher to offer them a book deal, and a few of them implied how “impossible” it would be for me to publish a book “at this stage of my career.”  Let me emphasize one point.  I was at lunch with a group of motivational speakers.  These people are supposed to inspire others for a living, and they were shooting down my dream!  Since I ultimately made it happen, I think this is actually pretty ironic and humorous.  Anyway, the message is this.  Most people (even some motivational speakers) have allowed life to beat them down.  Never allow someone else’s failures, insecurity, or lack of faith to dictate whether you believe your dreams are possible. 
  • You are trying to succeed faster.  Other people might doubt you because they make the mistake of thinking that it’s not possible for someone else to get somewhere sooner than they did.  When I was a senior in college, I shared my dream of working in pro sports with a senior executive from a team in the NFL.  He had been unable to get a job in sports right after college, so he told me it would be “impossible” for me to do it.  He then suggested I get experience in another industry and consider applying for jobs in sports 5-10 years later.  (This is an example of one of the terrible pieces of advice given to me as a young professional.)
  • They don’t like your dream. Don’t expect all of your friends or family members to be excited about your vision.  I don’t know your particular situation, so all I will say is that when you reach adulthood, it’s time to make your own decisions.  One of the biggest recipes for unhappiness is to bury your dreams in order to make other people happy.  As long as your dream does not hurt you or anyone else, then go after it with everything you have.   
  • Some people actually don’t want you to succeed.  This is also known as being a “hater.”  Yes, this sounds jaded, but it’s true.  Some people incorrectly believe there is a finite supply of happiness or success available in the world.  As a result, they think that if you are happy or successful, it somehow makes it less likely for them to be.  The truth is that there is an infinite supply of success and happiness available to anyone willing to put in the necessary effort.

The overall message is this: do not expect everyone to support your dreams unconditionally.  Instead, use doubts or criticism as added motivation.  In a way, I got my first dream job (to become an NBA executive) and my second dream job (to become a published author) because people doubted me, not in spite of people doubting me.  I used doubts from other people to ignite my conviction that I would succeed.  Doubters made me want it more and gave me an “enemy” to fight against.  The challenges unleashed my competitive juices and my desire to win.  I learned at an early age that your ultimate success has nothing to do with what other people think about your dreams.  Your success or failure will be the result of how you respond to fear, what you tell yourself is possible, and the subsequent actions you are willing to take to make your dreams a reality. 

Have you ever used doubts from other people as extra motivation to achieve one of your dreams?  If so, please share below!

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-Pete Leibman (Pete@DreamJobAcademy.com)

-Author of “I Got My Dream Job And So Can You: The Blueprint For Career Success As A Young Professional” (due out through AMACOM in spring 2012)

-Founder of Dream Job Academy

-Keynote Speaker for The Dream Job College Tour

Creator of The Washington Wizards’ Sports Careers Day

What Can The 2011 NBA Finals Teach You About Achieving Your Dreams? (written by Career Expert, Pete Leibman)

June 14, 2011

Many people fail to get their dream job because they have a back-up plan.  Think about this logically.  By having a back-up plan, you are telling yourself that you might not succeed, which is exactly what you should not be thinking. 

Before I start to get letters from pessimistic parents or career counselors saying that this is bad advice to give students and young professionals “in this economy,” let me make sure you understand my message.

I am not saying that you should target one organization and remain unemployed rather than work for that employer.  Having any job is better than being unemployed given the stigma of being out of work.  What I am encouraging you to do is to commit to getting your dream job, no matter what it takes.  Sure, in the meantime, you may have to stay in a job you don’t love, or you may have to get a temporary job to pay bills.  However, you must commit 100% that you are going to get your dream job eventually.  No excuses.  No doubt.  It is going to happen.  It’s only a matter of when, not if.  It is that mindset that will actually help it happen because you will be more resilient and persistent.

If you knew you would die a slow, painful death if you did not get your dream job in the next six months, you would find a way to get it.  You would do absolutely whatever it took to get hired.  Why not approach your dreams with the same vigor? 

That probably sounds crazy, but most people completely miss the point of life and work. Don’t “plug along” in some job that you hate; go after your dreams with everything you have!  Hold absolutely nothing back, and you will succeed. 

A back-up plan is actually a plan for failure.  When you are willing to do whatever it takes, you will eventually achieve your dreams.

If you follow the NBA, you just witnessed Dirk Nowitzki and the Dallas Mavericks stun the world and knock off Lebron James, Dwayne Wade, Chris Bosh and the almighty Miami Heat.  Before the season started, no one expected the Dallas Mavericks to win the NBA title this year.  Well, no one except Jason Terry, shooting guard for the Mavs.  Before the 2010-2011 season began, Terry got a tattoo of the NBA Finals trophy on his right bicep. How’s that for committing to your dream?!

P.S. To receive a FREE 25-page report on Job Search and Career Success Secrets for Students and Young Professionals, visit my web site at www.PeteLeibman.com

 

-Pete Leibman (Pete@IdealizeNow.com)

-Author of “I Got My Dream Job And So Can You: The Blueprint For Career Success As A Young Professional” (due out through AMACOM in spring 2012)

-President of Idealize Enterprises

-Keynote Speaker for The Dream Job College Tour

Creator of The Washington Wizards’ Sports Careers Day

The Magical Power of “Why Not?” (written by Career Expert, Pete Leibman)

March 23, 2011

Beautiful, blond hair. 

Striking blue eyes. 

Long, perfect legs. 

A smile that could make a linebacker weak in the knees. 

She was physically beautiful, and I was not the only person on campus who took notice.  Veronica was THE girl at Johns Hopkins University when I was a student there.  All the girls wanted to be her, and all the guys wanted to date her.  We met briefly in a class at the start of my sophomore year (when she was a freshman), and I was blown away by her appearance.  The thought of dating her literally never even crossed my mind even though she sat near me for months in 2 of my classes. 

In hindsight, I had a decent amount going for me at the time (other than a horrendous wardrobe consisting largely of t-shirts and sweat pants), but I had barely talked to girls in high school, and I wasn’t much smoother during my freshman year in college either. 

Fast-forward to the end of my sophomore year, and I found myself waiting for a bus ride on campus. Veronica walked up to the bus stop with a friend, looked at me, and said “Hey Pete,” as she gave me a look and eyebrow raise that seemed to add “Didn’t think I’d remember you, did you?”   

She was right.  As she gave me that look, I thought to myself, “Wow, I didn’t even think this girl knew my name.”  We talked for a few minutes as we rode the bus, and then we went our separate ways.  The following week, school ended, and I went home to New York for the summer. 

She crossed my mind a lot over the next few months.  As summer came to an end, and I got ready to go back to college for my junior year, I thought to myself: “Why not?  She remembered my name.  That has to be worth something.”  More importantly, I thought, “What the heck do I have to lose by asking her out?  What’s the worst thing that could happen?  At least I wouldn’t wonder what might have been.”

When I got back to campus, I still lacked the confidence to ask Veronica out, especially since I didn’t even know if she had a boyfriend.  However, I realized that one of my friends was friends with her, so I asked him if he knew what her deal was.  Unbeknownst to me, he asked her what she thought about me.  She told him to tell me to call her.

The day after learning this, I excitedly mentioned it to one of my other friends, who responded by saying, “Dude, she’s totally out of your league.  You could never get that girl.” 

I thought about what my 2nd friend said and nearly blew her off, but I reminded myself that she had told my other friend that I should call her.  Still somewhat shocked by this development, I told myself again, “Why not?” 

When I saw Veronica at a party the following weekend, I asked for her phone number, and magically, she gave it to me.  Several weeks later, we started dating. 

Unfortunately, this story doesn’t have the happy ending you might have expected, as Veronica and I only dated for a few months.  However, that experience was one of the best learning lessons of my life.  I realized that when you say “why not?” and are open-minded, anything is possible.   Even a shy, quiet guy who had barely dated could get THE girl on campus. 

As crazy as it sounds, it was that experience that ultimately gave me the confidence to go after my dream job to work in the NBA when I was an inexperienced, 21 year-old kid lacking any relevant work experience or connections.  When other people doubted that dream, I just said to myself, “Why not?  They were wrong about Veronica.  Maybe they will be wrong again.” 

They were…

-Pete Leibman

-President of Idealize Enterprises

-Creator of The Dream Job College Tour

Creator of The Washington Wizards’ Sports Careers Day

www.IdealizeNow.com

www.linkedin.com/in/peteleibman

Blog: http://CareerMuscles.Wordpress.com

Twitter: @peteleibman

You Have to Change Your Thoughts BEFORE You Can Change Your Life (written by Career Expert, Pete Leibman)

February 22, 2011

You know what you should do, but that does not mean you will actually do it.

For example… Being overweight or obese significantly increases your chances for developing heart disease, dementia, Alzheimer’s disease, and a host of other mental and physical disorders as you age, and nearly 80% of all colon, breast, and prostate cancers are linked to diet and lifestyle factors.  These statistics clearly illustrate the importance of a healthy lifestyle.  As a result, you would expect that everyone would be certain to eat the right way and to exercise consistently.

However, over 70% of the U.S. is overweight or obese!

Is this because overweight/obese people are not aware of the importance of eating healthy and exercising?  Of course not.

Instead, most people are overweight for 2 main reasons.  First of all, it’s because they have chosen (usually subconsciously) to ignore the long-term, negative consequences of repeating behaviors that feel good in the short-term (i.e. eating junk food or watching tv on the couch).  Secondly, most people are out of shape because they don’t believe they can get into better shape.  As a result, they don’t bother trying.

Our motivations (and subsequent actions) develop as a result of our associations and thought processes, most of which we are not aware of.  In brief, if you avoid something, it’s because you have subconsciously or consciously linked it to more pain than pleasure.  On the other hand, if you pursue something, it’s because you have subconsciously or consciously linked it to more pleasure than pain.

If you want to achieve a new goal, whether it’s related to your health, your career, or anything else, you will need to change some of your behaviors.  However, you need to change your thoughts FIRST.  Otherwise, you will just be relying on the ineffective motivational strategy known as “will-power.” 

Be open to the possibility that you can achieve your goal, and focus on all the benefits you (or others) will receive when you achieve your goal.  The right mindset is a prerequisite for being and staying motivated to endure the inevitable challenges we all face when we try to do something worthwhile.

Win the “battle” in your mind first, and you can win any “war.”

 Like this post or got something to add?  Please comment below!

-Pete Leibman

-President of Idealize Enterprises

-Creator of The Dream Job College Tour

Creator of The Washington Wizards’ Sports Careers Day

Pete@IdealizeNow.com

www.IdealizeNow.com

www.linkedin.com/in/peteleibman

Blog: http://CareerMuscles.Wordpress.com

Twitter: @peteleibman

P.S. To learn more about my 1-on-1 career coaching programs or my speaking availability for The 2011 Dream Job College Tour, please visit www.IdealizeNow.com or send an email to Pete@IdealizeNow.com.

Your New Year’s Resolutions Will Fail If You Make These 7 Goal-Setting Mistakes (written by Career Expert, Pete Leibman)

January 3, 2011

I’ll be going to my gym to exercise tonight around 6pm, and I know it’s going to be packed with tons of men and women who have said to themselves that 2011 will be the year that they finally get into better shape.  Unfortunately, many of these people will give up on this goal before the end of the month. 

Why does this happen?

Whether you want to build a better a body, a better career, a better bank account, or a better relationship, there are 7 main reasons why most New Year’s Resolutions Fail.  If you want to make the 2011 the best year of your life, you must avoid these 7 deadly, goal-setting mistakes:

Goal-Setting Mistake #1: You are not setting S.M.A.R.T.E.R. goals.

-Solution: Despite what most “experts” on goal achievement tell you, S.M.A.R.T. goals (specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and time-based) are NOT sufficient.  You must make them S.M.A.R.T.E.R. by including the “E.R.” (exciting reasons) why you want to achieve the goal.  What benefits will you or others receive as a result of you achieving your goal?  When you find a big enough reason(s), you can achieve anything; without this motivation, you are much more likely to quit.

Goal-Setting Mistake #2: You don’t know how to achieve your goal.

-Solution: Make sure you know what is involved in achieving your goal, or it will not matter how hard you work.  Be careful who you take advice from; everyone loves to give advice, and most people have no idea what they are talking about!  Find someone who has already done what you want to do, and ask them how he/she did it.  Supplement their tips by reading, studying, and implementing tips from at least 1 well-respected book or course on how to accomplish the goal you are trying to achieve.

Goal-Setting Mistake #3: You don’t have a plan to achieve your goal. 

-Solution: Imagine yourself having already achieved your goal.  Then, work backwards and identify what you will need to do to reach your ultimate destination.  There will likely be a series of steps you need to take along your journey.  Have you identified them and organized them into a process?

Goal-Setting Mistake #4: You have not set any short-term goals.

-Solution: Don’t just set goals for the year; break down your annual goals into monthly, weekly, and/or daily goals.  For example, one of my goals for the year is to exercise at a high-intensity on at least 250 days, a goal I have achieved every year of my adult life.  That means I have to exercise 20 times a month, which is 5 times a week.   By focusing on 1 week at a time, my annual goal becomes much more achievable.

Goal-Setting Mistake #5: You are trying to achieve your goals on your own.

-Solution: Find a teammate(s) to help you achieve your goal.  This could be a trusted friend or family member or a professional with expertise related to the area of your life you are trying to improve.  We all need coaches and teammates to be our best, especially when we try to achieve a goal that is challenging.

Goal-setting Mistake #6: You don’t have a tracking/measurement system in place to measure your effort.

-Solution: Set up some sort of system to track your effort each day, week, and month.  Many people give up on their resolutions by the end of January because they have not seen the progress they had unrealistically expected by that time.  By measuring your effort, you will have proof that you are trying your best (or proof that you need to step up your game), you will be more likely to stay focused, and you will build momentum, a key to achieving any goal.

Goal-Setting Mistake #7: You expect significant results to come too quickly.

-Solution: Focus on effort first, and have faith that progress will show up in time.  Small steps add up very quickly.  Be patient with yourself, and reward yourself along the way based on your effort, not on your progress.

Do you want to make 2011 the best year of your life?  Then, make sure you avoid the 7 goal-setting mistakes listed above!

-Pete Leibman

-Career Expert, Author, Speaker, and Coach

-Creator of The Dream Job College Tour

Pete@IdealizeNow.com

www.IdealizeNow.com

www.linkedin.com/in/peteleibman

Blog: http://CareerMuscles.Wordpress.com

Twitter: @peteleibman

P.S. I speak nationwide to groups of students and young professionals.  To learn more about my programs and speaking availability for The 2011 Dream Job College Tour, please send an email to Pete@IdealizeNow.com.